There is an unofficial rule in relationships that a guy has to be a bit older than a girl. But what to do when the difference is huge? Is it a good idea to start a relationship when a man is much older than a woman? I’ve collected as many convincing facts and examples as it is possible.
What is a big age gap relationship?
First of all let’s define the term “big age gap relationship”. I propose to think about this… It is not that hard to imagine a relationship, when she is 18 and he is about 35, right? But if we go to math we will have a 17 years age gap and he is almost twice older than her. At the same time we cannot call him an old guy whatsoever, right?
Also for different people and even for entire nations the concept of big age difference will vary.
So, to make it clear let’s define it as when the gap is more than half of her age or at least 20 years.
20 years is the approximate period of one generation. It’s when your kids can make their own children.
Ok, so now we know when we call the man much older than his woman.
When it’s a good idea?
There are multiple examples when such relationships do work. Here are just some of them: Leonardo DiCaprio & Camila Morrone (23 years), Jason Statham & Rosie-Huntington-Whiteley (20 years), Michael Douglas & Catherine Zeta-Jones (25 years), Princess Charlene & Prince Albert (20 years), Emma Heming Willis & Bruce Willis (23 years) and many others.
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1. First thing that comes to mind is when a man is extremely wealthy. 2 thousand years ago the main quality for choosing the right man for marriage was his ability to physically protect his family. Luckily we are now in a civilized society and physical security evolved into financial security. Hence, there is nothing bad when a woman prefers a man that reached a good level of wealth.
2. Also, no one canceled love. There are so many cases when a young woman actually falls in love with the much older man. Lawless heart. When I was a student there was this lecturer of economics. He was somewhere between 45 and 50 and all ladies on the course just loved him. He was smart and pretty athletic.No wonder that he attracted their attention. And guess what? His wife was 20 years younger. I must admit he never was rich or authoritative.
3. Common goals. Another example when the large age gap relationship may work is when both parties have common goals. Traditionally one may think that the purpose of any relationship is marriage and children. But the reality is that there are plenty of people that don’t want to build a traditional family, raise kids, etc. Sometimes people feel good just sitting next to each other, traveling together or simply drinking wine and watching the sunset.
Tips to handle your age gap effectively
Now let’s talk about some tips that will help you handle your relationship with a much younger woman.
1. Face the truth. First tip is to realize your situation. If you want to build a healthy relationship with the age gap you must understand few things:
- she is younger and therefore she may want a communication with people of her age;
- the younger girl may have some hobbies different from yours;
- uncertainty is also a part of such relationships;
- no matter how rude it may sound, most likely you will enter the stage of passive old age much faster than her.
2. Respect her. Even if you realize that your wealth is the basis of your relationship you still must respect her as a woman and as a person.
3. Find common interests. You may have different friends and different hobbies, but you need to find the things that you can do together. Possible examples are: food, art, entertainment, literature, travel, pets, etc.
4. Become a part of her life. It is one of the most important and working tips. Try to understand what she likes and what she does not like. Then just think what can you do to become a part of this? For example, if you know that she likes yoga, try to join her yoga class and do it together. Give it a chance, you may like it. If we think further you then can go for some yoga trips and meditations somewhere to Asia and that smoothly turns into travelling.
5. Listen to each other. Any healthy relationship is all about finding compromises. When you talk you give each other an idea about your internal thoughts, experiences and expectations. Knowing that you can find win-win solutions in any cases you face.
Where to start?
Most of the time this happens accidentally and naturally. You come across an attractive woman, start talking and agree upon going out some time. And when you are on the first or the second date you reveal your age difference.
But what if you feel that you intentionally want to build a relationship with a much younger woman. Here is where you can start.
Dating Site
Luckily in the 21st century you can find a girlfriend in a few clicks on a dating site. There are plenty of women worldwide that look for a mature boyfriend. You just need to choose the reliable website that meets your needs.
For instance if you need an inexpensive international site with the chat and webcam functionality you can go with VictoriyaClub or TenderBride. Here is the nice article about Younger Woman & Older Man Dating Sites.
But if you want something like a dating social network try a NeuralDating service.
Also online dating provides the opportunity of open relationships. If you look for this, it’s a nice place for that. Got some money? Here is the showcase of dating sites for millionaires. Though, I personally think that it’s too much.
Young Friends
The other popular way to find a younger girlfriend is through your friends. These could be your younger colleagues or family members that can introduce you to a girl. Try to visit some parties, holiday dinners more frequently.
Dating in your 60 or even 70 can be fun.
Public Place
Even though it is much more difficult, public places still work. These could be cafes, restaurants, parks, etc. There you can meet beautiful ladies and start talking to them. For some guys it’s a rather complicated step, but what do you lose if you do that?
If you went through a complicated divorce, make sure to check this article: Life after Divorce for Men.
Wrap Up
We know multiple examples when a much older man builds a successful relationship with a younger girl. When we say “healthy” we mean that both parties are happy and really want it.
There are some things that both man and woman should realize before jumping into this relationship, like different friends, interests, hobbies and even language. But when both understand what they want, work hard and make each other happy, this may grow into something huge.